Pastor Ken preached one of the best messages on Mom’s that I have ever heard. He surveyed his female friends and colleagues on motherhood. Some of the responses he got back were speaking right at me. Some of the comments he received back were: moms feeling a constant sense of comparison to other moms. As moms, we do not seem to know how to say no to others. We feel this pressure from society and ourselves that we have to be perfect and we are constantly comparing ourselves to that perfect mom. Putting God first is a challenge. Not defining myself as just a mom. I have every single one of these. This told me once again I am not alone.
In 1 Samuel 1 and 2, there are 12 things God wants us to know.
1. Mom’s story does not begin the day I was born.
As women we all have a story to tell before we had children. We have hopes, dreams and desires for our lives.
2. Following Godly principles; be the mom God created you to be without comparison.
We put so much pressure on our selves when we compare ourselves to others. We need to support one another instead of criticizing and comparing. God created us all to unique and have different giftings not to be the same. I may be great in some areas but lacking in others. This is where the support should come in.
3. In every story there will be hurt.
Hannah is not able to be a mom. This is so common today and we need to be sensitive to the needs of others but also being a mom has its own sense of burdens.
4. Ladies if you don’t realize it, men do not always know what to say.
He was speaking of Hannah’s husband asking why she was crying all the time and the priest not being very compassionate towards her during her time of prayer and sadness.
5. The craziness of motherhood will not be solved by leaving God out.
He was saying that we need to make time for God. God knows exactly what we need and we have to keep up with our spiritual life. I can attest to this. I feel so out of control and in a total state of chaos when I am not praying. I need to make time for my devotional time more. It is so hard trying to balance everything but I do need to fit it in.
6. If you are blessed with children, remember they are part of the family not the center of the family.
This is so true. You have to make time for your spouse, for yourself and your spiritual life. I am still working on this. My hubby and I are actually going away for two nights this year. We have NEVER done this but we so need it. We love our girls but our time together is so important too. Kids can sense when there is peace or when there is strife. By placing your kids as the center, you are going to be let down when they spread their wings and fly one day. Your whole world cannot revolve around your children. They do not need that pressure and neither do you!
7. How are you doing with your promises?
What kinds of promises did you make yourself when you first became a parent? Are you keeping those or putting them by the way side?
8. Joy comes from God and not our circumstances.
We need to praise you God no matter what we are going through. Hannah did this and so did Job.
9. God is Holy and great regardless of our circumstances.
10. The Lord defends the weak.
God sees your struggles just as he did with Hannah.
11. God can be trusted in all things.
12. Mother’s have a great prophetic gift.
We have this ability to shape our children’s lives. In the prayer Hannah prayed she spoke of a king long before God allowed a king to rule over Israel. Sometimes we have sense about something or God has spoken something to us that is not in any book or doctor.
One thing that really struck me was the guilt or worry some moms face. I do too. “Did I do enough as a mom?” ” Did my child go to sleep sad, angry, lonely?”
There is also so much pressure to put them in activities to build their skills and character. Am I putting them in the right one? Sometimes I wish I could do more but we just don’t have the financial means to do so.
I have started watching this show Tori and Dean and I love it. I think because they do love each other and their kids and it shows. They are just like my family minus the money. Tori is so much like me and these moms. Her husband just tries things but Tori is constantly checking to make sure they are okay or give a reminder to her husband. I am the same way. I tend to be more cautious where as my husband says let them try or go for it. This is how they learn. This is very true but I am still a mom. I think about my kids even while I am sleeping. Are they cold? Are they scared? Do they feel okay?
It is nice to know our pastor, other moms and even Hollywood stars have the same issues I do as a mom. I hope this encourages you today that WE are not alone. We all just want to be the greatest mom on earth. While we may not feel that way sometimes, our kids would say otherwise!