What Makes A Marriage Work

10 Dec

Our Pastor preached an awesome message on marriage as part of his WE series this past weekend!

WE: What it Takes to Make a Marriage Work

Marriage is a lot of work. But, it’s worth the work when you do it the right way – God will bless it! From the very beginning, God’s plan was for men and women to come together in marriage; to come together as one flesh; to live in loving relationship with one another; and, to model the marriage that we would ultimately have with Him – joining with Him in love for eternity.

But, society has made a mess of this. There’s so much brokenness. We live in a “me” generation and we need to change that. A healthy marriage is simply not possible if we are only focused on ourselves, our wants and our needs. We have to move from “me” to “we” if we want our marriages to work. In fact, that holds true not only for marriage, but for every relationship.

This week, I want to make you aware of some (though not all) of the main qualities of a healthy marriage. If you’re married, these are things to implement. If you’re single, they are some things you should expect.

  1. You have to give more than you take. The more you give in a relationship, the more fulfilling that relationship becomes. Conversely, the more you take, the more your marriage will suffer.
  2. You can’t take yourself too seriously. Laughter is good. Both spouses need to be able to laugh with each other and at themselves. We’re funny people. If you never laugh and have fun together, your marriage will suffer.
  3. Learn to communicate at deeper levels. This is always at the top of the list for needed improvements in a relationship. You have to communicate in the deeper levels (dealing with emotions and being transparent) to have a healthy marriage.
  4. Work on staying humble in your relationship. Pride is at the core of every failed relationship. Be humble enough to admit when you’re wrong even when you don’t think you’re wrong – it’s not worth it. The relationship is more important. There’s nothing that two humble people can’t overcome.
  5. Make a decision that divorce is not an option. If divorce is an option, you will divorce. God does not see marriage as merely a contract on a piece of paper, but as a covenantal vow. God never intended divorce to exist. God hates divorce.

Marriage is not easy, but it is wonderful…when it’s a healthy, blessed marriage. If you want that, whether you’re currently married or would like to be someday, I encourage you to listen or re-listen to (or watch) this week’s message to find out What it Takes to Make a Marriage Work. By unleashing the power of family in this way, we can begin to reverse the trend toward increasing brokenness in our society and experience a whole new level of blessing in our lives which will carry on for generations to come.

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