Tag Archives: children

Dentists

19 Aug

I heard recently that a friend had a popular pediatric dentist that was filling children’s teeth with fillings that had no cavities all due to the economy and the all mighty dollar. We had a horrible experience with the first dentist we took my oldest too. She had just had surgery so she freaked out when we went in. The dentist was so rude to her and called her names in front of us. She also said my princess had three cavities without doing x-rays. I found a another dentist that I had heard great things about and we had a very pleasent experience. My princess had NO cavities. Can you imagine if I let that horrible woman strap my baby down give her happy gas and fill teeth that did not need to be filled. Parents get a second opinion and be your kids advocate. If you aren’t, no one will be!

Different Learning Styles

8 Feb

Throughout my daughters life I had preschool teachers and elementary school teachers talk to me about issues with her. They would say, ” we think she has a hearing problem.” I found she was perfectly fine. Her hearing was tested and it was perfect. I heard this for two years of PS.

In kindergarten pookie did not adjust well. She was brought up to SST. Her teachers were baffled because she could read on these high levels but could not  tell you what she read. She would answer these hard questions that no one else knew but not stay focused, follow basic everyday instructions or finish her work. By the middle of the year with much prayer,  she was improving.

She went on to first grade with some minor issues that seemed to get better when we removed her from her allergy meds. Second grade went smooth except for all the teachers referencing how quiet she was. They would actually put talkative kids near her so she would have no choice but to talk. They would even be excited if she got a check mark for talking because she was that quiet.

Third grade she is doing well but at her fall conference she asked me again did pookie have a hearing issue. I said she was just tested twice and both times came out perfect so I said no. We have continued to work with her. The other day her teacher wrote the most bizarre note.  It said, “I don’t think pookie takes in anything audibly but she is one smart cookie.” At her conference she said Pookie does not follow basic everyday instruction and has to be reminded quite often. However on her test scores, answers, etc she is at the top of the class. She is actually being tested for the gifted program right now.

I spoke with a teacher friend of mine that happens to teach gifted and she said Pookie is classic textbook gifted child. Their brains are so full of ideas that they cannot focus in on everyday simple multistep directions. This is so true. I used to get upset with her for not following directions I had given her. With this information I am trying to be more patient. Following directions is a life skill so for pookie whether gifted or not we just have to work harder at achieving it.

All of our brains work different and learning that different people learn in different ways is so vitally important. Thank God for her teacher that pressed in on this issue and discussed it with me instead of labeling her incorrectly. It really is an issue of how she learns. Her teacher has her right up front, written down basic directions and is going to get her classmates to help remind her of basic everyday multi step directions.

As always I share this information for those who may be in similar situations with their kiddos or if you have a child like this and would like to share your tips and ideas for what worked please share.

Can the tooth fairy leave IOUs?

30 Jan

Over Christmas my four year old lost a tooth. Yes, she is quite young and she already has her adult tooth. Well we were at the Dentist the other day and they informed me she has three more loose teeth and several on top not too far behind. I think I may have to take out a small loan. So my question is can the tooth fairy leave IOUs?

A Miscarriage

20 Nov

I am only writing about my story because I know I am not alone. So many friends and family have reached out, and shared their story with me.

Here’s my story: I had been really sick with two ear infections, vertigo, nausea and a cold. I was throwing up and bleeding for a month. I knew something was wrong. I found out I was pregnant.  I had no insurance and my husband was out of work. This could not have come at a worse time. I was upset and in shock. This was not planned and so unexpected. I have two girls and I love kids. We want a whole house full but the timing was so off. I called my OB and they did some blood work. Everything appeared to be fine except my progestin levels were slightly lower then they would like. I started meds and I was scheduled for an ultra sound. I got the horrible news on Tuesday, November 9th that not only was I only measuring 6 weeks along when I should be 10 but there was no heart beat. I was beyond devastated. This means my body has been holding my little one and making me think all was okay. I was as sick as a dog yet my little one had already passed on. How cruel and to make matters worse I found I was pregnant yet my baby was already gone. This is something I don’t understand. I don’t understand how any of this could happen. I was full of guilt for being upset  yet I knew I did nothing wrong. I do not smoke, drink and I eat fairly healthy.

I have so many questions. I cried all day after my surgery and I went into a depression. I have gone through all the grieving emotions. These emotions are all too familiar as I have been through them before when my dad passed away. I have my good days and I have my bad. I am trying to keep super busy and get back into my routine.

God is  getting me through this and slowly healing my heart. I do have a support system. I have two beautiful girls, my hubby who has been amazing and grieving right along with me. Family members who are there for me to cry, get angry and pray with. Friends who are more like family then some of our own family. Bringing us groceries, sitting with me while I have to sign a death certificate and make arrangements on what to do with my little one. This was such a huge blow to us but I know I am not alone. I don’t understand it but I know I am not alone.

People who have not been through this don’t understand. They do try to make you feel better but some comments should just be kept to yourself. ” I’m sorry for your loss”,  and “I’m praying for you” are wonderful.  Please don’t say, “you’ll move past this.” No this was a child created out of love whether by plan or not that will not have a chance to grow up for whatever reason but knowing my baby is in heaven with all the other babies lost gives me great comfort. I will heal but you never truly get over a loss. It gets a little easier as the years go on but you never get over it.

I am a very private person but so many people have come forward and shared their story and I want to help someone else as women have helped me get through this. I have a friend who was entering her second trimester and she was pregnant with twins. She lost them a few days before we found out. We have been grieving together and praying for each other. I just want you to know you are not alone. Cry, get angry, pray whatever you have to do but don’t hold it in. Hold on to your faith. Hold on to your loved ones. I am not sure if we will have any more children because I cannot go through this again but I love my girls and they do truly bring me great comfort.

Pharmaceuticals pushing to vaccinate school children

13 Sep

I found this article very enlightening!

Words no parent wants to hear

10 Aug

I am sitting in my car waiting to go through the afternoon carpool pick up. The line is more than a mile long and we are just starting to move. I hear my three year old say, “Mommy I have to go potty!” Oh no the dreaded words no parent wants to hear especially when you are stuck in a line or something you cannot get out of. All I could do was distract and pray. We picked up my daughter and made it home just in time.

Jennifer Aniston Slammed for liberal views on parenting

10 Aug

I was actually a little shocked by her comments; however, I should not be surprised. She was saying fathers are not needed in raising a child.

I guess that is true when you have tons of money and nannies that can do everything for you.

Realistically, I would be insane without my husband. My girls adore him and my girls have a healthy self esteem because we are BOTH in their lives. I have a friend who is a single mom and her kids light up like light bulbs when their dad comes on the weekends. They are in tears when he has to go back home. I see how hard she has it and how much her kids do benefit from that relationship. I am  the person I am today because my dad was such a vital part of my life. I was totally devastated when he passed away.

I think people in Hollywood need to get their heads out of the clouds and get a good dose of reality before they shoot their mouths off with their unrealistic view of life. You don’t have to have a man to have a child but you may want to step into a real single moms shoes before you make comments such as these.