Well, over Christmas I’ve noticed some tiny changes in my 9 1/2 year old daughter. She is in the early stages of puberty. Before I can wrap my brain around all this she brings a letter home that her school is going to be watching a video on sex education. Wow! We’ve had numerous discussions on puberty and body changes for her since she was 3. However, I have not delved into the world of sex education yet and thought I had a little more time. Now I’m reading books on how to approach the subject. A friend recommended a book by Kevin Leman, called a chicken’s guide to talking turkey about sex. I am impressed just by reading the first chapter. I wasn’t sure if it would take a bury your head in the sand approach as a good number of Christians and adults seem too but it is very blunt and I am getting very helpful parenting advice.
My parents never really said anything about puberty or sex other than “don’t have sex before your married.” So when I became a parent I spoke with my husband and we decided we were going to be open, honest and delve into this as a family conversation. I want her to be comfortable with her body through these changes and understand it’s normal. I want her to feel she can come to us at any time and ask any thing she wants. I feel like as a parent you need to research, learn and grow. This is a topic that is so new to me as far as teaching my children so I want to get it right.
Almost everyone I have spoken with said their parents never said anything about sex or puberty we all learned it from TV or our friends. I want my relationship with my daughers to be different. So I am very nervous but I will it’s important and hopefully it will get easier when my now five year old goes through this in a four or five years.
Our school allows us to watch the video they are showing before our children will view it so I am going to do that. If it lines up with our values and what I would be discussing with her then she can view it. I definitely do not want her getting wrong information from her friends.
I cannot believe my first born is old enough to be learning and going through this already. Time flies so quickly and she’ll be graduating high school before I know it.
My oldest daughter just turned 9 and her pediatrician recommended a great book about your body and puberty. It’s by Lynda Madison and part of the American Girl Collection. The book is The Caring and Keeping of You Collection. The only part I did not care for is the eating disorder section. Otherwise, I think it is a great book through a kids point of view on how your body changes and ways to take care of your body. I have talked to Pookie since she was little about body changes but it would be good for her to ease her mind about the changes that will be going on.
I saw this report on ABC World News last night. I was one of those girls that started getting breasts at 8 and started my period at 9. I never wanted that to happen to my daughters. I understand what they are saying about obesity triggering estrogen and this makes sense. I also understand they are looking at environmental factors as well but what about all the hormones that are in our chicken, eggs, milk, cheese, yogurt and beef? They did not even mention this on the news last night. Is it because we are in bed so to speak with the dairy and beef industry this is a taboo subject. I purposefully by eggs, and chicken with no hormones or antibiotics. We do not eat too much beef and my girls cannot have dairy. Other than the body odor that started at age 6, my oldest has absolutely no signs of puberty and she is 8 and I am so forever thankful. I am glad they did this study but they need to address food and hormones as well as the other things they have suggested.
My oldest daughter loves the American Girl Magazine but was more interested in the animals than the dolls. However, I took my daughters along with a friend of mine and her daughters to the American Girl Bistro, and now they want one. It is cute. We did the tea time and craft for under $10 a person. The girls loved it. We each got our own tea pot, sweets, finger sandwiches, fruit and muffins. We had a fun day and even my three year old had a blast. She did not want to give the loaner doll back. Maybe Santa will bring them one. I definitely recommend this for moms, grandmas and daughters to do together. It is really girly and a lot of warm memories in the making!
My oldest daughter tried out for a guest appearance in Cinderella. She is going to be a little fairy. I was able to watch the dress rehearsal last night and she was beautiful. All the girls did a fantastic job. The little tiny girls ages 4-6 are mice and they are adorable. This is the first year they have allowed the little ones to guest perform. While Pooky’s part is only a minute long, I am enjoying every second. She loves ballet and I am so proud of my shy little princess coming out of her shell.
My little Fairy!
My husband took our three year old for a daddy-daughter date to Krispie Kreme Doughnuts. Doughnuts are a rare treat and since she had already had dinner dessert was the most logical option. I have the best hubby in the world. My dad used to take me on little dates too. Those are the most vivid memories I have of him. Since he has passed, I will alway remember our times together. Our oldest daughter is going tomorrow. She is really excited to spend this special time with him.